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By June 13, 2015 Uncategorized

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Some restaurant etiquette is just common sense: Don’t speak when your mouth is full, don’t tell rude jokes during the meal, and always cover your mouth when you cough.

Others can be a bit more nuanced. Who pays after a business meal? Where do you put your napkin when you stand? And how exactly does one order the perfect bottle of wine?

Here are some guidelines from Patricia Napier-Fitzpatrick, the author of “The Art of the Meal: Simple Etiquette for Simply Everyone.”:

  1. Dress Nicely –  “I still believe men should wear jackets to dinner, if not a suit, Napier-Fitzpatrick said. If a man is dining with clients — and especially clients from other countries which tend to be more formal — they should wear a jacket and a tie. Women should be wearing a dress or suit, and shoes instead of sandals.”

  2. DON’T put your cell phone, keys, or purse on the table – It’s just common sense. It distracts not only your other dining companions, but also your waiter and the entire restaurant.

    DO let your guest order first – “The host, especially if it’s a woman, has to make it clear that he or she is the host,” Napier-Fitzpatrick told us. “Say phrases like, ‘Will you please bring my guest…’ or ‘My guest would like to order first’ to ward off confusion.”

  3. DO set up payment ahead of time if you’re the host – “A savvy host knows to give their credit card before they sit down, or even call the restaurant ahead of time,” Napier-Fitzpatrick explained. “I tell that especially to women who travel to other countries that are very male-dominated. Also, the person who invites is the person who pays.”

  4. DON’T tell the sommelier how much you want to spend on wine – “Tell the waiter what you like, what you’re having, and give them an idea of price by simply pointing to a wine in your price range,” Napier-Fitzpatrick advised. “The waiter will know to stick within that price point. I also tell people not to pretend you’re a wine connoisseur, because then you’ll look silly. Just take a little taste of the wine when it arrives, and see how it is. Nine times out of 10 it’s just fine.”

  5. DO know where to place your napkin – “Wait until your host makes the silent signal of placing the napkin in his or her lap before you begin eating,” she said. “Then the napkin goes on your chair seat if you stand up [to use the restroom]. When you’re finished with the meal, it goes on the left-hand side of where your plate would have been — not folded, but neatly placed. Wait for the host to be the first to do so.”

  6. DON’T yell to your waiter – “Try to make eye contact with your waiter,” Napier-Fitzpatrick advised. “If that doesn’t work, put up your right hand with your index finger raised slightly to get their attention.”

  7. DO order the same number of courses as your companion – This avoids awkwardness and allows you to pace yourself with the other person. Make sure to take your time eating and pause after every few bites — especially if you’re the host, since you don’t want to make your guest feel rushed during the meal.

  8. DON’T start a business conversation before the conclusion of the entrée – “Business should not be discussed until the meal has been cleared away,” Napier-Fitzpatrick warned. “Also, generally avoid complaining about business colleagues and work during the meal.”

  9. And DO remember your table manners! – Wipe your fingers and mouth often with your napkin – Cut one piece of meat or fish at a time on your plate and eat it before cutting the next one – Butter bread on your plate, never in midair – Look into (not over) the cup or glass when drinking – Sit up straight, and keep your arms (including elbows) off the table